Amongst the lovey-dovey relationship goals, the long-distance ones are perhaps the most sought after, presently- owing to the highly career driven lifestyle. When everything falls into the right place with the perfectly imperfect person, little do we consider the toll that distance can take on this ‘oh-so-perfect’ relationship! Though it is not the dreamy sequence of your relationship, yet, for some it brings out the strongest bonds while for the rest it’s the rock bottom. Before you term it as the die cast by destiny, or ‘just wasn’t meant to be,’ let us just give it one more try, and not give up all at once. Here’s a short list of relationship goals as well as keys to make it work with your loved one, even staying miles apart.
Expectations are to be clearly stated
Romantic duos have a real rough patch dealing with the expectations of each other. It is still alright and communicable for those staying in the same city, as they can sort it out some or the other way when they meet. In case of long distance relationships, where meeting in person is a once-in-a-while condition, setting the ground rules for a relationship is of prior importance. Each of you needs to clearly know what the other expects. Do make it a point to list commitment at the top of your priorities, as this can be the only way to reassure your partner that it is always meant to be.
Less is more
As far as communication is concerned, do remember that less is more for a long-distance relationship. Calling up every now and then may not always be the gesture that you miss your loved one, instead, it can turn out to be over-imposing your partner with possessiveness. You got to be creative while you talk, otherwise after a long day at work, your partner might not feel like only answering a queue of ‘How’s’ and ‘Why’s’. Yet again, don’t keep it as a loose end, where one feels neglected or taken for granted. It has not to be long phone calls every time, try recording a short video or audio clip saying about your new place or simply that you miss her. Greeting each other at the mornings and nights are never counted as cliché or sticky and a love-struck gesture instead.
Talk it out
Be it the socializing plans at the new city, or be it the much deprived of sexual feelings of yours- try to talk it off always. It is much obvious that you would have plans of partying and short trips with the new people. Do make sure, you let your partner know about your late-night or trip plans when they are decided. It is really important to not make your partners feel left out, when you are not in the same city or country with them. Even the sex talks are necessary. It is not about getting dirty over phone or texts; sexual attention can keep you both glued to each other at the toughest of situations. It also rekindles the spark and unexpectedly brings the partners closer enough fulfilling their emotional desires.
Try to share your ‘we times’ rather ‘me times’
A key way of staying tuned on the same page is by sharing your leisure hours. It is never the distance that really matters; it is about going an extra mile to make it work. As you may keep busy all day long, for the entire week, not being able to give that attention to your partner, so you need to work it out at the leisure hours. Playing the same game online or watching the same sitcoms or songs in YouTube at the same time washes away the imprints of long-distance.
Other than these few tips, there can be numerous personalized ways to stay glued even when miles apart. Making up plans to visit each other and saving for that is also a way to stay connected rather glued with desires in a long-distance relationship. They say, ‘real gold is not afraid of the test of fire,’ and that it is not always distance behind every break-up on this planet. So, don’t give up on your ‘us’ and work your ‘me’ when you tend to lose hope on your once-perfect part of the world.